
In 1972, Elvis Presley said,
‘wise men say only fools rush in’.
Despite knowing this he couldn’t help falling in love.
Well, that’s all well and good for the romantics out there, but it’s bloody silly when I think about it.
Mind you, I think about it with a degree of hindsight. I’m reminded about the silliest thing I’ve ever done in my young love life.
I was on a school field trip in Rome. One of the girls in the group and I grew close.
Skipping past all the awkward talking about each other to our friends and each other’s friends, I asked this chick out in St. Peter’s Basilica, as you do.
She was the first girl I had ever asked out.
So, naturally, I didn’t have a clue what I was doing.
We spent the first day holding hands and sitting in the same chair together.
Her friends jokingly asked me what my intentions were.
“Oh, long term. For sure. She’s great.”
I guess I meant it at the time.
On the second day, we were walking down the Via Nationale and we got the idea to buy each other gifts to commemorate the wonderful event of us finding one another.
I thought I’d be suave and go with jewelry.
No necklaces. Nothing was more important than her Virgin Mary necklace her mother gave her.
She didn’t like bracelets, either…
We stopped by a jewelry store to have a look. We spotted a diamond ring that was going for €89 (NZ$250).
(cringe)
I bought it for her.
*NOTE*
Can I just say, that at the time I was a tourist and had lots of money in my pocket, so I had no real sense of value.
I said to her,
“I know this cost a bit, but it just shows how cool* I think you are and how I think this is gonna last a long time.”
(facepalm)
I told my friend about it.
“You’re a dumbass.”
“Why?”
“Dude, you don’t just give a chick a ring after being with her for two days.”
He told my other friends.
“Wow, that was stupid.”
“It’s not what it looks like! It’s just a present.”
“That was stupid present.”
Eventually, my parents found out.
“Oh, for Christ’s sake, Daniel…”
Long story short, I realised about a month or so after coming back from the trip that the relationship could’ve been something more akin to a holiday fling and I broke up with her.
Thankfully, she gave the ring back** and I was able to get (most) of my money back.
The point is, I made the mistake that a lot of creatives tend to make.
I committed to the first good thing that came along, as soon as it came along.
Thinking about why we creatives do this and thinking about my past romantic ineptitudes, I can gauge an understanding:
A lot of the time, creatives go a long time without a great idea. Even though we put the effort into finding one, it usually doesn’t come our way. Then, when our minds do start to come up with something decent, we get excited.
We get so amazed by the fact a good idea had come our way, we jump to use it. Usually never stopping to consider how good it really is under the glamour of the initial reaction.
Others around us, like our colleagues, might say,
“Yeah, it’s a nice idea, but don’t just go full on with it, you’ve only known it for a few minutes. Try out other ideas, look elsewhere, see what else there is.”
And you come back with,
“Nah man, this is it. I’m pretty happy with this one.”
It takes someone higher up, more experienced, whom you respect, like your boss or Creative Director to point out,
“The idea just doesn’t work. Sure, there’s flare, but it doesn’t have depth.”
That’s when the illusion shatters for you. And you slowly start to realise the things the idea lacks. Pretty soon, you’re sick of the idea and the thought of working on it repulses you. You finally make the decision to dump it.
Because you were so infatuated with this first idea, you didn’t consider others and all your precious time was put into nothing with nothing to fall back on in the end.
And so you have to start again, alone, without an idea.
Sure, there are those times where people come up with a great idea and everything fits, first time around. But you never use that as a model to follow, that’s just a moment when the stars align and people call out buzz words like ‘fate’ or ‘serendipity’.
It’s always good to make sure you’ve assessed all your angles and options before going with an idea to go all the way to execution with it. You may not invest as much as a diamond ring, but then again, you won’t always get it given back to you.
Creatives should heed Elvis when he says ‘only fools rush in’.
No, it’s not romantic if you can’t help falling in love with it.
*A word to young guys in love with someone. Never buy jewelry for a girl you think is ‘cool’. If that’s the only adjective you can come up with, put your wallet back in your pocket.
**She threw it at me.

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